February 3, 2019
1 Corinthians 13:4-8a
Rev. Todd Harris, preaching
Enhancing Your Love
A love map is that part of one’s brain where one stores all the relevant information about one’s spouse’s life, such as their worries, hopes, and goals in life; their history; and the facts and feelings of their world. According to Gottman, happily married couples use their love maps to express not only their understanding of each other, but their fondness and admiration as well.
Nurturing Fondness and Admiration
Nurturing fondness and admiration involves meditating a bit on one’s partner and what makes one cherish him or her. Exercises the book suggests for doing this include, among other things, thinking about incidents that illustrate characteristics one appreciates in one’s partner; talking about the happy events of the past; and completing a 49-item “Seven-Week Course in Fondness and Admiration.”